Being at your god twins’ first birthday
The dads and dads-to-be out on the patio talking
sports
The moms and moms-to-be in the living room
talking mom stuff
Feigning a headache and driving to the gym
Working off the 400+ calories of birthday cake
you devoured in the kitchen because you didn’t have anything to say.
At the gym
Reviewing dozens and dozens of conversations
you've had with your husband about being parents or not
In the car
Reviewing dozens and dozens of
conversations you've had with other people about why you're choosing not
You remember
Being told that you’ll likely change your mind.
Being told this for twenty years and wondering
why your mind never changed.
Being told, when you say out of habit, maybe
you’ll adopt someday, that it’s just not the same as having your own kids.
Being an adopted kid and hearing this
Knowing it’s true
Knowing they are not the same thing
Knowing each is a unique gift…
Knowing that's not what they mean when they say
it’s not the same.
